21.2.13

494. Currently...

TAKING a sip of a very large glass of wine. It's been one of those days.

GIVING everything I can to my boys, it's exhausting. I'm not feeling very well at the moment, just a cold I think, but combined with the lack of sleep it's kicking my butt. It's taking everything I have to get up in the morning and do silly things like make meals & play - things I normally love to do. Fingers crossed it passes soon.

TEACHING patience. Daniel has seriously crossed a barrier into tantrum city recently, it's TOUGH. He's screaming, kicking, flailing around, shouting, the works. It's like he's so worked up he can't stop it. Earlier he screamed for five minutes because he didn't want to go to bed, then straight after continued screaming because he DID want to go to bed. Oh, toddlerhood.

LEARNING patience. We use time-out with Daniel, mostly for me to take a minute and calm down as he just screams for the whole minute. I think it's time to move on to two minutes. It's a consequence for his actions, I think he's learning that. After, we talk about what he did, he apologises and we have a cuddle. He has all these emotions and feelings and just doesn't know how to deal with them, and me getting cross and shouting isn't going to help. My parents never shouted at me, we never argued, and I don't want Daniel's memories of me to be horrible ones - yelling at him or even crying. After he went to bed earlier I cried, inhaled a Snickers and doubted my parenting skills, but I'm doing what I think is best.

LOOKING forward to a girls night this weekend. I'm excited to go out, dress up and have a few drinks, even if I will be coming home early to the boys - though that actually sounds pretty perfect to me!

HK


Lots of Love
Momma B
xxx

5 comments:

  1. I totally hear you on the tantrums, and I feel the same way about just trying to do what I think is best. Hopefully, I am teaching my daughter expected and acceptable behavior while maintaining a bit of my sanity :) Thanks for the post ... and smile - TGIF!

    ReplyDelete
  2. Oh i hope you kick this cold quickly!! It's hard enough taking care of kids without anything on top! Good Luck with the tantrums, it sounds like your dealing with them really well (even if it doesn't always feel that way!)I'm def' not looking forward to full on tantrums! (I wonder what Lachy would do if i threw a tanty in return?!)

    ReplyDelete
  3. Hope your cold passes quickly! I woke up Tuesday with one and I know the feeling of dragging out of bed just to do normal things. ughhh. Don't these colds know us mama's can't be sick??

    Enjoy your night out this weekend :)

    ReplyDelete
  4. I always remember my parents telling me that punishments were harder for them than for me, when I was a kid. Obviously that sounded crazy to me at the time, but now that I'm in the thick of the whole tantrum/time-out cycle I know it is totally true. I hear you on the post-time-out snickers.. or wine, or whatever ;) Doing what's "good" for them feels so crummy sometimes. But we're in the right I think.. right?!

    ReplyDelete
  5. Earlier this week, my daughter threw a massive tantrum, because she didn't want to leave my mom's house. She fought getting her coat and boots on. Then, outside, she screamed bloody murder, while I put her in her car seat. She screamed the whole way home, saying she didn't want to get in the car. I pulled in the driveway and her screaming changed to, "I don't want to get out of the car!" Two and a half is a rough age. I couldn't do anything but laugh.

    ReplyDelete